block: make every barrier action optional

In all barrier sequences, the barrier write itself was always assumed
to be issued and thus didn't have corresponding control flag.  This
patch adds QUEUE_ORDERED_DO_BAR and unify action mask handling in
start_ordered() such that any barrier action can be skipped.

This patch doesn't introduce any visible behavior changes.

Signed-off-by: Tejun Heo <tj@kernel.org>
Signed-off-by: Jens Axboe <jens.axboe@oracle.com>