IB/ipath: Fix many locking issues when switching to error state

The send DMA hardware queue voided a number of prior assumptions about
when a send is complete which led to completions being generated out of
order.  There were also a number of locking issues when switching the QP
to the error or reset states, and we implement the IB_QPS_SQD state.

Signed-off-by: Ralph Campbell <ralph.campbell@qlogic.com>
Signed-off-by: Roland Dreier <rolandd@cisco.com>