[XFS] Fix use-after-free with buffers

We have a use-after-free issue where log completions access buffers via
the buffer log item and the buffer has already been freed. Fix this by
taking a reference on the buffer when attaching the buffer log item and
release the hold when the buffer log item is detached and we no longer
need the buffer. Also create a new function xfs_buf_item_free() to combine
some common code.

SGI-PV: 985757

SGI-Modid: xfs-linux-melb:xfs-kern:32025a

Signed-off-by: Lachlan McIlroy <lachlan@sgi.com>
Signed-off-by: Christoph Hellwig <hch@infradead.org>