IPoIB: Disable NAPI while CQ is being drained

If NAPI is enabled while IPoIB's CQ is being drained, it creates a
race on priv->ibwc between ipoib_poll() and ipoib_drain_cq(), leading
to memory corruption.

The solution is to enable/disable NAPI in ipoib_ib_dev_{open/stop}()
instead of in ipoib_{open/stop}(), and sync NAPI on the INITIALIZED
flag instead on the ADMIN_UP flag. This way NAPI will be disabled when
ipoib_drain_cq() is called.

This fixes <https://bugs.openfabrics.org/show_bug.cgi?id=1587>.

Signed-off-by: Yossi Etigin <yosefe@voltaire.com>
Signed-off-by: Roland Dreier <rolandd@cisco.com>