dlm: detect available userspace daemon

If dlm_controld (the userspace daemon that controls the setup and
recovery of the dlm) fails, the kernel should shut down the lockspaces
in the kernel rather than leaving them running.  This is detected by
having dlm_controld hold a misc device open while running, and if
the kernel detects a close while the daemon is still needed, it stops
the lockspaces in the kernel.

Knowing that the userspace daemon isn't running also allows the
lockspace create/remove routines to avoid waiting on the daemon
for join/leave operations.

Signed-off-by: David Teigland <teigland@redhat.com>