IPoIB: Fix crash when path record fails after path flush

Commit ee1e2c82

 ("IPoIB: Refresh paths instead of flushing them on SM
change events") changed how paths are flushed on an SM event.  This
change introduces a problem if the path record query triggered by
fails, causing path->ah to become NULL.  A later successful path query
will then trigger WARN_ON() in path_rec_completion(), and crash
because path->ah has already been freed, so the ipoib_put_ah() inside
the lock in path_rec_completion() may actually drop the last reference
(contrary to the comment that claims this is safe).

Fix this by updating path->ah and freeing old_ah only when the path
record query is successful.  This prevents the neighbour AH and that
path AH from getting out of sync.

This fixes <https://bugs.openfabrics.org/show_bug.cgi?id=1194>

Reported-by: Rabah Salem <ravah@mellanox.com>
Debugged-by: Eli Cohen <eli@mellanox.co.il>
Signed-off-by: Roland Dreier <rolandd@cisco.com>