IB/mad: Check GID/LID when matching requests

Check GID/LID for requester side when searching for request which
matches received response.  This is in order to guarantee uniqueness
if the same TID is used when requesting via multiple source LIDs (when
LMC is not zero).  Use ports' cached LMC to perform the check.

Further, do not perform LID check for direct-routed packets, since
the permissive LID makes a proper check impossible.

Signed-off-by: Jack Morgenstein <jackm@mellanox.co.il>
Signed-off-by: Sean Hefty <sean.hefty@intel.com>
Signed-off-by: Roland Dreier <rolandd@cisco.com>