9p-trans_fd: fix trans_fd::p9_conn_destroy()

p9_conn_destroy() first kills all current requests by calling
p9_conn_cancel(), then waits for the request list to be cleared by
waiting on p9_conn->equeue.  After that, polling is stopped and the
trans is destroyed.  This sequence has a few problems.

* Read and write works were never cancelled and the p9_conn can be
  destroyed while the works are running as r/w works remove requests
  from the list and dereference the p9_conn from them.

* The list emptiness wait using p9_conn->equeue wouldn't trigger
  because p9_conn_cancel() always clears all the lists and the only
  way the wait can be triggered is to have another task to issue a
  request between the slim window between p9_conn_cancel() and the
  wait, which isn't safe under the current implementation with or
  without the wait.

This patch fixes the problem by first stopping poll, which can
schedule r/w works, first and cancle r/w works which guarantees that
r/w works are not and will not run from that point and then calling
p9_conn_cancel() and do the rest of destruction.

Signed-off-by: Tejun Heo <tj@kernel.org>
Signed-off-by: Eric Van Hensbergen <ericvh@gmail.com>