md: avoid races when stopping resync.

There has been a race in raid10 and raid1 for a long time
which has only recently started showing up due to a scheduler changed.

When a sync_read request finishes, as soon as reschedule_retry
is called, another thread can mark the resync request as having
completed, so md_do_sync can finish, ->stop can be called, and
->conf can be freed.  So using conf after reschedule_retry is not
safe.

Similarly, when finishing a sync_write, calling md_done_sync must be
the last thing we do, as it allows a chain of events which will free
conf and other data structures.

The first of these requires action in raid10.c
The second requires action in raid1.c and raid10.c

Cc: stable@kernel.org
Signed-off-by: NeilBrown <neilb@suse.de>