dlm: connect to nodes earlier

Make network connections to other nodes earlier, in the context of
dlm_recoverd.  This avoids connecting to nodes from dlm_send where we
try to avoid allocations which could possibly deadlock if memory reclaim
goes into the cluster fs which may try to do a dlm operation.

Signed-off-by: Christine Caulfield <ccaulfie@redhat.com>
Signed-off-by: David Teigland <teigland@redhat.com>