IPoIB/cm: Use common CQ for CM send completions

Use the same CQ for CM send completions as for all other IPoIB
completions.  This means all completions are processed via the same
NAPI polling routine.  This should help reduce the number of
interrupts for bi-directional traffic (such as TCP) and fixes "driver
is hogging interrupts" errors reported for IPoIB send side, e.g.
<https://bugs.openfabrics.org/show_bug.cgi?id=508>

To do this, keep a per-interface counter of outstanding send WRs, and
stop the interface when this counter reaches the send queue size to
avoid CQ overruns.

Signed-off-by: Michael S. Tsirkin <mst@mellanox.co.il>
Signed-off-by: Roland Dreier <rolandd@cisco.com>